Monday, February 3, 2014

The Structure and Rythm of Living - Supportive Routines


In the eloquent words of Mike "The Situation" Sorrentino from MTV's Jersey Shore “Gym, Tan, Laundry.  It’s the process of staying fresh and mint. Watching my boys watch this show, that reference stood out to me as stroke of brilliance.  This kid has a super simple routine that supports his version of success.

I have spent the last few months trying on routines that will be critical to helping me achieve my personal and professional goals. I think we all know how easy it is to set goals only to be disappointed when we fall short or worse, lose sight of it all together because of crisis or one distraction or another.  I’m pretty sure I could write a best seller on that topic alone. Unfortunately that would not be the best use of my time and talents and would represent perhaps my hundredth distraction in my journey. 

At this very moment I am clear on one thing.  If I do not adhere to certain routines, things begin to fall apart very quickly. Then come the welcomed distractions that support the falling a part of things.  I have danced this dance and rode this ride more times than I care to remember.  What’s different now is that I have some perspective. And perspective is everything.  I see how my past routines and habits have served me over the last few years. The good news is, it has not been a total shit show.  I have experienced professional and personal success.  But I don’t want to hide behind good when I know a little more effort; connection and collaboration could result in something great. 

For me the game changer has been this: All my routines and any new habits I pick up have to play to my strengths AND support a personal and/or professional goal.  No exceptions.  Mind blowing, right? Okay not exactly, but stay with me for a sec. I subscribe to the 80/20 rule in terms of playing to my strengths and working on my weaknesses.  When I am firing on all cylinders, my routines are supporting my actions. I feel connected and collaborative and at the end of the day very accomplished. 

When I sacrifice routines to accommodate a new schedule, a difficult relationship or any other external factor, things almost always go sideways and I find myself second guessing every action and decision I made as a result. Then I find my mind swirling with thoughts on what I perceive to be “misses” far longer than what is healthy and productive. 

You can never go wrong with honoring what works for you and coming into a situation centered and prepared vs. anxious and unsettled. There has been a lot of discourse around this topic and rightfully so, if we can hone the routine, processes and structures that will ultimately support our success we will see immediate fruit.  And that is good news for a not so disciplined, anti-structure, go with the flow, Bo-ho chic like me.  And you too!

Do you have a routine or a habit that does not support your success?   

What is stopping you from tweaking it so it supports you or letting it go altogether?

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