Let summer inspire you

If you are anything like me, no doubt you set great goals six months or so ago. How is that working for you? No judgment here. We’ve all been there.  And my advice: don’t stress about (nope, don’t do it).  Instead, let this season of summer encourage you – the beautiful vibrant colors, the energy of the endless outdoor activity.  Take it all in. Be an active participant.  Bask in the glory of summer, I say. Let summer renew you, breathe new life, creativity and imagination into your dreams and goals. Allow it to fuel the action plan for your life.

And then join Accomplished Living Studio for the first in a series of Dream Studios, starting in September.  Bring your goals and dreams to life with thought-provoking exercises, other inspiring women, precious time and a supporting environment. Because you deserve the time and space to explore and bring your dreams to life.  

A $35 studio fee includes facilitation and all supplies and is limited to 10 women. More details to come on the date, location and registration (Oh, the suspense). Contact me with questions, requests or well wishes. Happy summer!

Daydreaming and I’m thinking of you

A few weeks ago I conducted a “Dream Studio” pilot, offering women a creative, nurturing and inspiring environment to explore dreams and goals. And boy did they! Dream Studio is a workshop intended to help women formalize goals, create a visual representation of their goals and work with like-minded women to spark and recognize the physical manifestation of those goals. The pilot was a success; each woman walked away with a vision board. Getting there was how the real magic happened. There were two common themes among the women that participated:

1. There is simply no time to explore dreams and goals

2. Women didn’t know where to start

Despite those challenges the one thing that pleasantly surprised them (me, not so much) was that given the right environment, support and encouragement, creativity was ever present and flowing abundantly. I was fully prepared to assist those who would have a difficult time grasping the concept, clarifying goals or starting on a vision board, but there was not one such instance. Further proof for me that sometimes all we need is permission or a gentle push (and sometimes both☺). I’m preparing to launch these workshops this fall with a few smaller groups throughout the summer. The Dream Studio will be fabulous and women will be blessed, because that is my goal!

Stay tuned for details on upcoming Dream Studios.

The thin (finish) line between love and hate

I have a serious love hate relationship with running, and a four-mile run recently was a perfect example of how deep the relationship is getting. I think this could be serious – we just might be moving to a new level.
On the side of love, I can’t think of a better activity for my overall health. I love the time I have alone with my thoughts. The clarity and abundance of solutions that dance around in my mind is exhilarating and sometimes scary. On the roughest part of this particular run I had to rely on my mantra (thanks Caralynn) to keep me going. Up down, up down. Nothing fancy, very simple. 37 grueling minutes into the run (I'm clearly not running a 10 minute mile) I had a very profound experience. The effectiveness of my mantra was dwindling. Each step felt like it was potentially my last. And at this point I was only a little more than half way home. This was not good. My head drops, the best I can do is focus on the road right in front of me. Up down, up down. It’s rhythmic, quick changing, doable. I look up maybe a quarter of a mile later – progress! This feeling, the process mirrored my life. All those strong starts with the end-goal in mind. It’s worked and inspired me. But to keep at it, to stay engaged without feeling overwhelmed – I haven’t quite mastered that yet. I think sometimes you have to focus on what’s in front of you. Manageable, bite sized pieces. And purposely enjoy, revel and recharge in that success, as it folds up nicely into the success of the finish, which will happen.
The hate part of running - it really kicks my ass. That’s a fact. Several weeks ago I spent a good portion of a run complaining about numb heels, swollen fingers, tight calves. Finally turning to a friend with “do I need to get over myself.” She replied with a friendly, but firm “Yes. You will get used to it.” I know she’s right.
I see running as a template for living well and so far I have learned and lived some valuable lessons:
• A good spiritual/mental state will compensate for an average physical state.
• There will always be someone faster and with greater endurance.
• What matters most is personal commitment to show up and finish.
• It might be tough but the rewards of a strong finish make it worth it.

What activity challenges and teaches you about yourself?

Create by observing the world around you

My aunt, a life long fine artist, looks out the window while making her morning espresso and see shapes and figures in the tree branches of the burr oak in her garden. The tree people as she calls them, inspire a new body of work.

I see fashion possibilities everywhere. A flower petal dress, a tea pot hat, tree bark trousers.

My friend Roxie sees a face formed by the bubbles in her freshly poured apple juice.

We all see things things differently. How we see effects what we see and what we see through our unique lens has the power to inspire, captivate and awaken others and ourselves. Start by taking a deep breath, let go of the chatter in your mind and as holly hobbie used to say, take time to smell the flowers.

Who does she think she is?

Do you have an ever-present voice that reminds you of just how difficult, unusual or nonsensical something is? Is it loudest when you encounter the thoughts, plans, or things that your dreams are made of? If so, you are not alone. In fact you are in good company as most intelligent, creative, innovative individuals do.
It’s our inner critic at work. Telling us about ourselves, making sure we don’t get carried away from our comfort zone. Because after all, change and risk should be approached with extreme caution – if at all – according to the inner critic.
Here’s what I have discovered recently about my inner critic. She is very negative, dis-empowering and a total scary cat. I mean, I love her to death, because I know she means well, but at times she can really be a buzz kill. An example of my inner critic hard at work as a showstopper, literally, was during a recent work assignment. I volunteered to chair an employee day event and the task the committee accepted was to develop and execute a memorable, interactive day of fun for local employees. A part of that activity included a flash mob, and the time to pull it off, dwindled to two short weeks (partly my fault, y’all know I procrastinate from time to time…I’m a work in progress). As excited as we all were about the idea, there was a part of me and I’m sure many others, that thought the timing, communication, coordination, etc was not quite right and/or enough for it to actually work. There were times that I was pretty certain that it would be an epic fail. But I stayed committed and focused, even despite the lack of commitment from others. We ended up with several dozen participants and all who were in attendance enjoyed it. Yes, there were naysayers, but I took the risk, saw it through and no one can take the accomplishment and confidence away from me. I was elated and my inner critic and in some respects my external critics were deflated.
Now don’t get me wrong. I’ve taken my inner critic’s lead many times in the past. At times it has really felt like the responsible, safe thing to do. But, truth be told, over time I have allowed her to rob me of my confidence. So as I get to know her better, I am learning to give her, her due. Patiently and respectfully, hearing her out and with all the strength I can muster, declining her invitation (and sometimes insistence) to do nothing or travel the road of least resistance. Another coach recently shared the following advice on differentiating between the voice of the inner critic and the good old solid analytical skills: the inner critic rarely offers solutions or productive rationale; the inner critic’s job is to keep us operating in our all too familiar comfort zone. No risk, little to no reward.

How often do you encounter/engage your inner critic?

What is that special something, that your inner critic is afraid to see you bring forth?

Tamika Bowen

Explore - The real adventure starts closer to home

When I was growing up National Geographic magazine symbolized adventure. Adventure was traveling to exotic unpronounceable places, eating things with eyeballs and hiring guides to take you where few people had been before. Flash forward to today where travelling extensively is much more commonplace and the National Geograpic Channel offers us the opportunity to visit foreign lands and exotic cultures anytime we choose. Leaving me to wonder: If travel isn't adventure anymore, than what is? Perhaps it's time to redefine adventure as less about where we live and more about how we live. For me, this means being open to new experiences even if there is an element of the unknown and unexpected. For example, I recently moved from a traditional corporate environment to an entrepreneural environment that by its very definition has no roadmap. Sure, the path less travelled is challenging but it's also rewarding too. I've already grown a lot. Not all adventures need to be so dramatic. Taking a new route to work can be an adventure. So can taking a dance class. Relationships can be adventures, too. All of them will show you something new (no pith helmet required).

Is there something in your life that you'd like to try but haven't yet? Have you recently begun something new? How did it feel? What did you learn? We invite you to share your experiences and stories with us and our readers. Afterall, we're all fellow travelers in this grand adventure called life!

(C) Ruth Yasko
Guest contributor Ruth Yasko is an award-winning writer, creative director, producer and accomplished fine-art photographer. Ruth has a gift for inspiring others and menors up-and-coming creative professionals and entrepreneurs. A life-long explorer and creator, Ruth's greatest adventure began six months ago with the birth of her daughter, Seren.

Mission Accomplished!

I find myself muttering this phrase after completing significant tasks. But it wasn’t until recently that I have started to consider the significance (or the lack in certain instances…) of the phrase. Really looking critically at
1) the Mission and
2) the Accomplishment

I, like many of you, am at a point in my life where I’d like to live my purpose and passions more often than not. It is so important for me to be more critical of the missions I accept. Which brings me to accomplishments...Can we really call them that if they don’t serve a greater good? For instance, finishing all the laundry will ensure that my family has a sufficient supply of clean towels and undergarments (there are five of us at home) – certainly an admirable cause. But at the expense of quality time with family and friends, squeezing in a run or walk outdoors or doing research on a topic that has been tugging at my heart for several days? These are the things I tend to prioritize off the list.

So in my own pursuit of accomplished living, I am trying to give weight to the joyful, life giving, even challenging experiences. And if that means the laundry piles up occasionally or I have to say no to things that allow room for things I ought to be saying yes to, then those are the missions I want to accomplish.

So with that epiphany shared, the stiletto meets the turquoise carpet (because red is so overused…). As I coach myself to blossoming into a highly sought after life coach, I hope you will join me, cheer me on and holler back with your own experiences, as I chronicle my progress and evolution here.

Blessings and favor in your pursuit of an accomplished life – however you choose to define it!

What is your definition of accomplished living?